When a woman is convinced that she can stop the violence in her marriage, her stubborn determination feeds her sense of failure each time she sees that she can’t regulate her husband’s demands and abuses. In a perverse type of review, she may then ask herself how she could have been so stupid as to overlook the early warnings. This further diminishes her self-esteem. Susan Weitzman
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In this quote, the author is describing how a woman will often blame herself for domestic violence when in reality, she can never be held accountable. The abuser may keep blaming his wife for his actions but the woman will always be in the wrong. It is a common misconception that a woman can be held accountable for abuse in a marriage, but that is simply not true. A man is always the abuser and a woman is always the victim in an abusive relationship, regardless of whether or not she was involved or knew of the abuse. A woman cannot hold herself responsible for her husband’s actions

Source: Not To People Like Us: Hidden Abuse In Upscale Marriages

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